It’s quite challenging to objectively see ourselves and our behavior, isn’t it? The different filters we use to see the world influence everything in our lives. It makes sense– if we don’t really see the world objectively, how can we see ourselves objectively? We’ve all seen this drawing above. At first, most of us either see a young woman or an old lady. It’s not until someone points out what you can’t see, that you finally see it. It is amazing how your perspective changes when you change your perspective. The Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment did that exact thing for […]
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Did you ever consider that what we perceive to be true might not be reality? Think about it. Take the comment “I hate the dentist.” Some of us shrug it off as if it’s nothing while others get peeved by it. What’s really going on here? Is the patient really being rude? Are they making a joke? Maybe they’re grasping for some compassion? What is the reality? The way we perceive a comment like this does create our reality. It’s normal. It happens because we all see the world through different filters. Our filters determine how we see everything in […]
We all know how much stress can compromise our success in any given task. Think about it. You’re so busy worrying about something, that you’re distracted and don’t even notice what’s going on around you. We’ve all felt it at some point. In the moment, stress management may not be an option, as we may not even notice we’re stressed until we’ve had a chance to step back and pause. How can we learn to work with our stress, as it is often our partner in the journey to success? This past weekend, I experienced firsthand how stress can detract […]
I bet you’d agree that many of us learned to believe that success is about money. In fact, money is often the one determining factor we use to define success. The problem with believing success is about money is that we walk through life chasing one thing, when other things matter as much, if not more. Happiness and meaning matter too. It’s not until we look around and realize that our money is not enough, that we feel compelled to do something. We even notice that in order to make a lot of money, we are trading away our happiness. […]
I bet you’d agree that as dental students, we have no idea what the real world of dentistry is all about. What’s worse is, we think we know. Unfortunately this lack of understanding can set us up for a tough road ahead. The problem is that it limits the possibilities we see for ourselves in our future careers. The prime example is how we, as students, perceive what it takes to succeed in private practice. Who remembers judging our teachers in dental school for being teachers? Collectively we viewed them as dentists who couldn’t hack it in the real world. […]
I am back with another wonderful guest today. Meet Barbara, a clever dentist who found a great way to stay in dentistry without the pressures of private practice. Barbara has a really cool and unique story. She practiced dentistry for 5 years before she decided to switch gears. What she does now will have you smiling. It had to be 15 years ago that we met each other. We share a close mutual friend, and it was always fun to share this connection. We instantly had a lot in common– especially our confessions that we weren’t loving dentistry all that […]
I think you’ll agree that many dentists hold on to a difficult employee much longer than we need to. The problem with this is we waste far too much time and resources settling for mediocrity when managing dental staff. In the past I’ve held on to more than one employee out of fear, but now I know we don’t have to settle. We’ve all done that. We’ve all found excuses for why we should keep the wrong person around. The good news is we can learn how to do it better the next time around. How can we make the right […]
Every so often we get a wake up call. It’s the call that jolts us into remembering perspective. It’s the call that reminds us how important self care is. We can get so caught up caring for everyone else, that sometimes we neglect ourselves. In 2014 it was Robin Williams’ shocking suicide. The man that brought happiness and laughter to so many suffered a struggle that no one could imagine. A year later came the death of Amanda Peterson, aka Cindy Mancini, the beloved ’80’s teen idol we admired from Can’t Buy Me Love. She fell victim to drug and […]
Last week we discussed how important it is to change your environment and change yourself from within to create a sustainable shift. After so many years of wondering if I would ever really feel the changes from within, it was refreshing to see there was more to it. Now that I’ve experienced it, I’m convinced that changing both my environment and myself was the key. Let’s fine tune the concept even more: creating harmony with my environment allowed me to make more tangible progress. It’s not just about changing your environment, but it’s about changing your environment so that it […]
We all know happiness comes from within, right? Or so they tell us. We have all heard it over and over, but how many of you really believe that? At one point the idea frustrated me. I understood it, but I wasn’t sure I ever truly experienced it. I spent years wondering how I could change from within to become a happier person who was impermeable to the world around me. It didn’t seem realistic. Then I experienced it myself, and I started to really understand what that meant. Working through my career change shifted this from a concept to […]